The internet became synonymous with information overload.
The abundance of viewpoints is sure to confuse you on your quest to excel.
Avoid having too many mentors at a time.
Okay, “just one” is an exaggeration to catch you attention. But don’t worry, this not one of those useless lists such as “ten things to look in a mentor”.
No, this piece is intended to help you recognize and extract the juice of a mentor.
I have a martial arts background, so I have first-hand experience with the power a mentor can have on your life. But to properly make use of the advice you need to do two things in order:
1) Shut up.
2) Walk away.
You need to shut up in order to hear your mentor. Nowadays, people forgot that to be able to speak something of worth you need to learn something of worth first.
Earth shocking, I know.
If you’re a beginner, the best way to learn is to become a good listener. The first step in becoming a good listener is to shut up.
Don’t talk back.
You are already very good at arguing and look where it led your life?
A worldview that doesn’t lead to riches, growth and a fulfilling life is good for what? Snappy Facebook posts?
You can’t buy nothing with likes. Your cleverness is doing nothing good for you, so do a little exercise instead.
Assume that what your mentor is saying is entirely true and try to apply everything of it without distinction. Record the results or lack of. But only after you give a fair try.
After some time doing this you will get a good grip of what works and what doesn’t.
To assume one mentor will fulfill all your needs is naive. Rather, you should have mentors for different areas and endeavors in your life.
So, if you bodybuild you are listening to one author, if you are trying to survive college you should be listening to another, if you are trying to start an online business a different one.
Try their advice and methods. Record everything.
As you accumulate experience by following the advice to the letter, you will see that you will also learn unrelated stuff quicker.
Now you are ready for step two.
The day martial arts outlived their usefulness for me was when I was in the middle of a training session while unbeknownst to me, my beloved grandmother was having a stroke which eventually would lead to her departure from this earth.
For a long time I felt great regret.
Eventually the truth dawned on me.
There was not much that I would be able to do if I was in the house at the moment, and afterwards I realized that the reason why I felt regret was because I was doing something that i had already outgrew.
My purpose in doing martial arts never was to become a killing machine (even though I believe everyone should know basic self-defense), but rather to follow a way towards greatness.
Martial arts had outlived its purpose, so now it was time to walk away and search a new mentor.
You walk away when the advice has served its purpose. When you feel you would rather be doing something else.
How to know when to walk away? That’s the importance of record keeping. You research and research to come up with a decent expectation of how long it would take to see results but not the magnitude as this would be self-limiting.
As you do this record keeping over and over, you are training your gut to recognize things.
After some time trying things in different areas, your gut will be well-trained enough to inform you quicker and quicker. Eventually for some endeavors you will have no need to record keep. It’s what happens with advanced bodybuilders for example. Eventually you have so much information that you can do changes seemingly on the fly.
You self correct quicker than people who still relies too much on theoretical information can keep up.
This is advanced.
But to get there you need to choose a mentor. One, just one at a time.